A situation in which you clearly have no significant desirable qualities? What to do? Let’s say you are highly attracted to a person who is highly desirable to many, of who are also extremely more attractive than you in many ways. What do you do?
You obviously must find or create something that the person you are attracted to finds irresistible and that the competitors don’t have and can’t acquire or create anytime soon and/or as often as you can. That is the first task.
The second task is to present this irresistible to the person you desire in a way that will not compromise the exchange. You obviously can’t lose control of the irresistible. You obviously can’t allow the person you desire to be kept from accessing you or the irresistible. The competitors can’t be allowed to interfere. The competitors not knowing may or may not be better. If the one you desire experiences greater pleasure when the admirers know of new competitors, then you must take that into account.
Not all competitors will have the same desires as you. But all competitors ultimately keep you from experiencing what you want from this person you desire.
Irresistible means that this person you desire will do anything for it, which includes giving you whatever you like for the irresistible the person must have. If the irresistible is innate, then the person’s attention will encompass you. This could be good and/or bad. If this person finds you physically unattractive, then being personally visually encompassed may or may not be a problem. Of course every problem has a solution. For example, pleasant “distractions” can be used as a solution.
Either way, you must find or create an irresistible. And it must be irresistible. The irresistible could be a collection of mechanisms. The irresistible could be the unrivaled intensity of your desire. The irresistible could be that only you can eliminate an intense problem the competitors can’t.
Ultimately, if you lack the obvious, it doesn’t mean you are lacking in a plethora of other ways. Some of which may be difficult to create or find but may be vastly more simple and powerful to utilize once acquired or created.
Never underestimate the power of simple mechanisms that are being dismissed as useless by the competitors due to simplicity. For example, if all the competitors haven’t noticed that the one you desire loves some special and rare confection, that can only be acquired through a difficult process, then maybe, but just maybe, there is an opportunity there. So as not to appear obsessed, even if it’s okay to be obsessed, depending on what definition of obsession one is using, any move must generate extreme pleasure at seemingly little cost to you. Maybe.
The point is that seemingly impossible situations always have a solution. I did say “seemingly.” But then maybe all situations have a solution. Situation, here, being defined as a problem that, if solved, engineers pleasure.